AIMPOINT: "Connecting Where We Are" By Guest Author Pamela Aloia

By guest author Pamela Aloia

Current times have definitely shown that we as a people, as human beings, can withstand any opposition thrown our way. However, amidst such opposition, it also demonstrates that we do require a certain amount of reinforcements to combat the seemingly negative effects challenges often come with, such as patience, compassion, empathy and understanding to endure what we are faced with and what still may lie ahead.

In recent months, no one has been immune. The massive global effects of late have affected us all and have brought to the forefront a steady stream of emotion coupled with confusion, frustration and discontentment. But we look to find the silver lining that does exist.

For this month’s AIMPOINT piece, guest author and spiritual consultant, Pamela Aloia, who I had the pleasure of interviewing last year for this same column, was asked to take the lead and offer some personal insight and guidance on navigating the complex and often complicated act of communication. - Mick Michaels


Connecting Where We Are

Working with individuals and groups for the past 20 years, I’ve learned techniques to better understand people, to have them feel heard, and to validate their emotions and personal challenges. Communication can really be an art form and from my experience if we are emotionally aware, we can tap into invaluable insight when connecting with others.

Especially with where we are today with personal views, employment and financial impacts, political controversy, and the emotions that run behind each, we are in exceptionally trying times. This fact makes it all the more important for us to meet people where they are versus being confrontational or taking opposing views personally. Even though it may seem as though a certain faction of the world may want to see us divided - we are better than that as members of humanity. We can choose to dig deep within our spirits and call upon mutual respect for each other’s viewpoints, while interacting with the world in ways that support our stances and level of involvement. 

Of course, meeting people where they are can occur with any topic, at any time and is not a new concept. In fact, many people can do this innately without encouragement. Yet others find it helpful to learn how to do this. We have all heard the sentiment that it’s important to be compassionate with people because we don't know what they're going through. Even if we do know what they are experiencing and in support of this compassion, we can use what I call the AIR Method to help us perceive mental and emotional states of someone we are relating with, including ourselves.

In the AIR Method we take time to:

1.   Assess where we and/or a person may be mentally, emotionally, physically.

2.   Tentatively Identify the primary driving factors for the current state.

3.   And then choose to Respond in a way that is most appropriate for our own well-being as well as the person we are interacting with.

By incorporating the assessment, identification and response (AIR) practice for ourselves first and foremost is essential and helpful on many levels. When we practice this methodology with ourselves, we potentially unearth patterns in the way we think or emotionally react. When we find patterns we want to change completely, we can use this practice to not only assess where we are and identify what our triggers are, but we can also and most importantly, choose a different response to use moving forward that eventually breaks that pattern.

With this level of understanding of ourselves we become less surprised with reactions by and conversations with others. We take things less personally. We learn to see past what is being shown to us and notice what’s behind the actions and words. In this awareness, it becomes easier for us to open to ways in which we can shift energies if that is desired – even if that means walking away and creating space.

Avoiding our emotions is a model many of us follow, which creates a buildup of thoughts and feelings to reflect upon or work through later and sometimes, later never arrives. Then we set ourselves up for potential health issues and limiting patterns of thinking and behaving that hinder us in many aspects of living. However, when we open ourselves up to this type of transformative living, we create a safe place for ourselves and others. We bring fundamental understanding to emotional and mental patterns rather than sweeping them under the rug.

When we assess, identify, and respond to ours and others’ states of mind and emotion, we stay in tune with ourselves and our environments. An interesting byproduct of applying this practice is that it becomes easier to recognize and interact emotionally with others. The AIR Method is a wonderful support for humanity as it allows people to be who they are in the moment, prioritizes the human factor so greater understanding can be attained, and brings us more in line with empathy as a collective.

The next time we are passionate about something and want to talk with someone about something they may be uncomfortable with, let’s try meeting them where they are rather than bombarding them with questions or information. We may be surprised at how beginning from their starting point, can initiate a wonderful connected walk on our conjoined paths. 

Pamela Aloia is an energy healer, author, and teacher who has focused the last 20 years on individual and collective energy healing. She offers insight for people to expand their consciousness and enhance life experiences by combining practical and heartful aspects, inspiring others to discover a life of soul-filled living. Pamela is the author of “The Daily Cloak,” “52 Pick Me Up,” and “Nurturing Healthy Change.”

For more information on Pamela please visit www.pamelaaloia.com or on Facebook at www.facebook.com/PamelaAloiaAuthor

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